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Lynne Curry: What do I say when called for a reference?

Q: "Steve's" resignation three months ago took me by surprise. He'd always told me how much he loved his job. Then one day he walked in with a resignation letter dated the prior week and said he was leaving by the end of the week because he'd been offered a "dream job." When I asked him why he wasn't giving us two weeks' notice, he said his new employer needed him and he'd given them his word the prior week.

I'd always respected Steve, and he'd told me many times in the eight months he worked for me that I was a great manager. Still, in his last week, he screwed up every assignment, trashed me to his co-workers and voiced a number of made-up grievances. By the time he walked out the door I thought "good riddance."

Fast-forward to this morning when I got a reference call from an employer who was considering Steve for a job. All I can figure out is Steve's dream job didn't work out and he's looking for a new job. I said "no comment" but felt bad about it as Steve had been a good worker before he turned into a jerk. What should I have said?

A: "No comment" works; however, it undercut Steve's chances for landing a job he wanted and left a bad taste in your mouth. Steve gave you eight months of good work performance. You could have described Steve's strengths to the prospective employer.

If the employer pressed you for Steve's downside or if you wanted to balance the positives with the negative, you could have said "except he flaked out at the end." Like many other departing employees, when Steve secured a new "dream" job, he mentally moved on. Many exiting employees catch short-timer's disease and handle leaving-taking poorly.

It takes energy to end a job well. The exiting employee knows the employer and co-worker relationships will end and wonders whether or not to invest energy in working hard up until the last minute. Many take the easy road out and coast to their final day. Unfortunately, they leave a bad taste in their former employer's mouth -- and you repaid Steve in kind.

"Although it's exhausting to end well," says life coach Marcia Templin, "I've always done so. I value the mission and people I've worked for and with and don't want to let them down. It speaks to your integrity to work hard until the end."

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Templin adds that Steve may have swallowed issues that bothered him, afraid he'd lose his job or your goodwill if he voiced them. At the end, when your respect no longer mattered, he passive-aggressively aired his views.

According to life coach Jenny Landon, the fact that Steve trashed you to his coworkers "indicates leaving a work relationship with you may have represented past unresolved leave-takings, as for example happens when an employee who felt ripped off by a spouse in a divorce leaves the employ of manager of the opposite sex who 'never paid him what he was worth.' Steve appears to have 'gotten back at you.'"

Q: One of our non-exempt employees regularly steps up to handle a more senior employee's job as well as her regular job. We don't know how to pay her when she "steps up," as she returns to her core job when the senior employee takes back over. Also, she gets overtime during these step-up times and thus makes time and a half her regular hourly pay so several of us think she's fairly compensated.

A: Does she feel fairly compensated? If not, you can solve this by paying her two different hourly amounts: her regular wages when she handles her core duties and a premium hourly wage when she handles the senior employee's duties.

If you take this route, pay her overtime at the weighted average, determined each week by adding the number of hours work at regular pay to the hours worked for in the higher pay grade. This gives an average hourly rate on which you base her overtime pay.

Lynne Curry | Alaska Workplace

Lynne Curry writes a weekly column on workplace issues. She is author of “Navigating Conflict,” “Managing for Accountability,” “Beating the Workplace Bully" and “Solutions,” and workplacecoachblog.com. Submit questions at workplacecoachblog.com/ask-a-coach/ or follow her on workplacecoachblog.com, lynnecurryauthor.com or @lynnecurry10 on X/Twitter.

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