Lynne Curry

Q: My husband and I recently moved to Alaska and then he deployed. Two months ago, I confided in a coworker that I was having marital troubles. She suggested I tell my manager so he’d be aware I had things weighing on my mind.

I did and he asked me a lot of questions, some of which I felt embarrassed answering. After that, he asked me for “updates” every couple of days. Then, he asked me out to dinner. I thought he was just being kind because he knew I was new to the state and going through a hard time. But when he told me he’d made reservations at the Crow’s Nest and insisted that he’d pick me up at my apartment, I got nervous. I thanked him for the offer, but told him I’d need to decline...

Lynne Curry

Q: Nine months ago, I hired “Gabe” to handle a critical position in our company. From his first week, he took charge of a number of situations that were troublesome. I’m a fairly easygoing, accommodating supervisor, and I appreciated the way Gabe laid down the law.

After Gabe had been here only a few months, employees started coming to me telling me he was a bully. What they told me didn’t sound like the Gabe I knew, a man I’d learned I could count on. I didn’t listen and after he’d been here six months, I named Gabe my deputy...

Lynne Curry

Q: I'm in my fifties and have worked for the same organization ever since I turned 18. I never thought I’d want to quit my job, but I do.

I work for a bully. He's new to our organization and from day one he’s treated me with contempt. He ridicules my work and makes me redo every report I turn in. When I dare open my mouth in staff meetings, he looks at me as if I've grown horns. He insists that there’s one way, his way...

Lynne Curry

Q: My husband fought for our country during two tours of duty in Afghanistan. He had a struggle finding a job because all his work experience was military. Once he found a job, he gave it his all.

I know he always got to work ahead of time and worked hard, because he came home exhausted. He often worked through lunch without claiming overtime. His supervisor gave my husband many compliments, saying he “worked rings around everyone else."

Several weeks ago, just before his 90-day review, my husband was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder. His doctor said he needed a month off from work and counseling. The company didn’t offer sick pay so my husband asked for leave without pay...

Lynne Curry

Q: I work for a highly profitable company, run by a ruthless man, who operates it like his personal fiefdom. He has sexually harassed me for three months. If I try to sue, I’ll not only lose my job but won’t be employable in Anchorage. I like my job, make a good salary and there aren’t many companies in Anchorage that employ those with my skill set. The ones that could aren’t hiring given the drop in oil prices.

He began with suggestive comments. At first, I thought I read too much into his innuendos as his language is rough. Even after he brushed his hands across my breasts, I still thought I could handle the situation. But one day he grabbed me...

Lynne Curry

Q: Several months ago I got hired into a midlevel position by a large retail chain that’s been plagued by employee theft. I’m the only supervisor who didn’t rise through the ranks and doesn’t have a retail background.

I’ve learned employees I’d never suspect of pilfering merchandise not only steal, but lie with a straight face about how they didn’t take the items we catch them with. In the past, we’ve made it clear we prosecute any employees we suspect, but this hasn’t stopped the amount of theft; nothing has...

Lynne Curry

Q: I’ve had a string of bad bosses, resulting in five job changes in the last three years. I want to settle down with one company and know the secret is finding a decent manager who treats employees well.

I recently interviewed for a job with a company. The manager seemed like an all-right guy but you never know. After the interview, I realized I could search the company’s website for a list of employees and find out from them what it was like to work for the man. So that night I called several employees and asked them fair questions about what working for him was like...

Lynne Curry

Q : A former employee joined my company planning to start his own competing business and worked for me just long enough to pilfer materials I spent the last decade creating. I had a forensic computer specialist assess the former employee’s computer. He documented that this employee saved substantial quantities of information from our server to flash drives and emailed multiple documents to his Hotmail account. He’s now using my materials in his business...

Lynne Curry

Q: My best friends at work and I all share the same “geez, who are they kidding?” reaction to the crap that comes down from above in our company. We get together at least two nights a week, have a beer or two and shoot the breeze or play darts.

I recently decided to go back to school, taking two classes on Monday nights. I told the gang and thought they’d cheer me on. Instead, one guy said, “Way to go, bro,” but everyone else just kept discussing who was going to win the Super Bowl...

Lynne Curry

Q: Our executive director plans to retire within the year. The board of directors has made it clear that they’re considering two of us as ideal successors.

I couldn’t care less about the potential promotion, as the headaches aren’t worth the money. "Lloyd" desperately wants the job, sees me as a threat and has been trying to take me out of the running. I tried to reassure him by saying, “I don’t want the job,” but Lloyd took this as an insult, asking, “What makes you think you’ve even got a shot?”...

Lynne Curry

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