Dear Annie: I had always been told that communication has three major elements: words, tone and body language. Having retired from a technology-driven company, I am keenly aware of misunderstandings between people that can be created beginning with emails and texts.
I remember creating a rule for myself that, if it was an important matter, if it involved emotions or if it was rather complex, then it really should be communicated in person or at least by phone.
How many times have we caught ourselves thinking that we understand how the person who originated a text message feels? Is that even possible?
-- In Person
Dear In Person: I could not agree with you more. When communications involve feelings or emotions, then a face-to-face meeting is always best. If you can’t do that, a phone call is way better than a text or email. Thanks for writing.
Dear Annie: As a farmer myself, I’d like to offer suggestions for the elderly couple with livestock, the one whose brother is concerned for their safety. First, the brother is right to recognize there are potential problems and to ask for a solution.
Many rural communities have 4-H, FFA and Pony Club for youth. The clubs are under the guidance of experienced adults.
Perhaps the elderly couple could share their wisdom with young people while getting help with the animals in return. Assistance after school or on weekends could ease the concerned brother’s mind. The older folks would have a sense of purpose and be safer.
-- Upstate Deb
Dear Upstate Deb: I am a firm believer that the older generation has a lot to share with our younger generation. I am printing your letter in hopes that it continues to encourage these types of programs -- not only on the farm but in many businesses and charities around the world. We all have things to learn from each other.
Dear Annie: Let me add one more response to the subject of intermittent fasting by telling you my story. I started the year at 183 pounds. Fasting and eating every other day, combined with a regular exercise program, has reduced my weight to the low 160s after six months, where it is stabilizing with me eating every day now. I have also lost three inches on both my waist and hips.
As a result of this regimen, I now desire to eat smaller meals, occasionally only one a day, and I no longer binge eat. I also find that my digestion is better, and my energy level is good as well.
Our cave dwelling and hunter gatherer ancestors could not find food every day; therefore, they automatically practiced intermittent fasting. This is how we evolved, and it can be a very healthy way of eating.
Also, researchers did a study where they reduced the food available to lab rats. They found that when they ate less, they were healthier and learned to navigate mazes better. Apparently, feeding them every day was detrimental to their health by “overfeeding” them, contrary to their natural way of life in the wild, which is intermittent eating -- and therefore intermittent fasting. -
- Feeling Better
Dear Feeling Better: As the old expression goes, there are 200 roads to Rome, and you have found a road that works for you. Thank you for sharing your story, and congratulations on finding a program that is helping you reach your goals.